I've dealt with #1's too often in my life and been a #2 more often than I ever should have been.
"Energy Vampires" Women To Avoid (Or Train) | ideaGasms:
"...what they do is they suck your ENERGY.
Chances are high that your life is filled with these types of people.
My guess is that you’ll see your parents in these descriptions; you’ll see some of your friends, lovers, and perhaps even yourself.
Actually, MOST humans are “energy vamps”, it’s just a matter of degree. And with all “personal problems”, AWARENESS is the only cure.
When dealing with an Energy Vampire, you can feel it instantly.
You will get a feeling in the Solar-Plexus Chakra (in the “upper-belly” region), which is linked to our emotional body and central nervous system.
(Otherwise known as a “gut feeling” or an intuition.)
...These people usually leave us feeling tired; they drain our energy and self-esteem. And worse, we cannot get them out of our heads afterwards! We tend to re-play the conversation in our head, telling ourselves that we should have said “this” or “that” instead…
Energy Vampire #1 - The “POOR ME”
These people drain your energy by complaining, and sometimes implying that you are somehow responsible for their troubles.
When in the presence of this person, you will find yourself feeling guilty, even though deep down you know that their life challenges aren’t your fault. You’ll feel as though you need to defend against the idea that you’re not giving or doing enough for this person.
Many people use their misfortunes in life to gain sympathy. They want to talk about the suffering they’ve endured, or about the mistreatment of their parents, or about their illness, or some other deprivation or failure.
These people see the world as UNFAIR, and avoid taking responsibility. And, they want YOU to hear all about it! They focus on negative energy in order to STEAL energy (attention, sympathy, pity, etc.)...
Energy Vampire #2 - The “Aloof”
These people act emotionally distant, usually in response to having had overbearing or controlling parents.
...They are often distrustful and suspicious of other’s motives, and people describe them as being “shy” or even “snobby”.
Someone who is aloof is PRETENDING that they don’t care what others think. It is a FAKE social mask, designed to give them the “upper hand”.
On a more global scale, they are the “innocent” or apathetic bystanders who take little or no responsibility in shaping our world.
You know you’re in the presence of an Aloof person when you find yourself doing all the talking, and asking question after question, trying to get them to come out of their shell.
They will contribute very little to the conversation…
This is exactly where they want you, because it gives them a feeling of control. This is how they get attention, validation, and your energy.
...If you complain, they will often just give you the SILENT TREATMENT...
Energy Vampire #3 - The “Interrogator”
...they ask questions that aren’t sincere - they really DO NOT want to hear your views, but instead, they use questions to BREAK DOWN your views and try to make you doubt yourself...
Energy Vampire #4 - The “Intimidator”
...These are the macho jerks, the control freaks, the bullies, the paranoids, the authoritarians, the “alpha males”, the rage-aholics - you name it...
Energy Vampire #5 - The Boaster and Bragger
“Look at how cool, clever, and lovable I am!” is the unspoken message that they want you to hear, as they go on and on and on about their past accomplishments. More often than not, they are LYING, or at least exaggerating.
...How To Handle An Energy Vampire:
The same way we handle ALL of our relationships!
“Unconditional Love MINUS Putting Up With Crap = HAPPY!”
...with all of the above Energy Vampires, it is perfectly okay to tell them that you are BUSY. Because you ARE too busy to listen to garbage."
