Wednesday, November 02, 2016
"It is precisely in a traditional understanding of manly pride and honor that we will find the only sure basis for respect between men and women."
THE CRISIS OF MANLINESS | The Weekly Standard: "The last 30 years have witnessed a prolonged effort at social engineering throughout our public and educational institutions. Its purpose is to eradicate any psychological and emotional differences between men and women, on the grounds that any concept of manliness inevitably leads to arrogance and violence towards women and to rigid hierarchies that exclude the marginalized and powerless. This experiment was meant to reduce violence and tensions between the sexes...
As the recent book by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead confirmed, absent fathers are one of the strongest predictors of violence among young men in the United States, at least as important as poverty, lack of education, or minority status. The ease with which men of my baby-boomer generation have abdicated our roles as fathers is undoubtedly connected with feminism and the sexual revolution of the 1960s. Boomers were told that we shouldn't be hung up about providing masculine role models for children and should do whatever made us happiest, including escape an unsatisfying marriage. After all, to hold things together for the sake of the children would restrict both men and women to old-fashioned "patriarchal" responsibilities. The results of this hard, bright credo of selfishness are today's under-fathered young men, many of them from broken homes, prone to identify their maleness with aggression because they have no better model to go by...
It seems plain enough that we are missing the boat about manliness; for there are forms of pride and honor that would be good to impart to young males. Indeed, manly honor, and shame at failing to live up to it, are the surest means of promoting respect for women. Equally, manly anger and combativeness can provide energy for a just cause. Horrified as we are by the cult of warrior violence in the Balkans or Rwanda, we may have gone too far toward the opposite extreme in the Western democracies. As Michael Kelly recently observed, "There are fewer and fewer people, and they are older and older people, who accept what every 12-year-old in Bihac knows: that there are some things worth dying and killing for." Abolitionism in the ante-bellum United States, the Allies' defeat of Nazi Germany, and the civil-rights movement of the '60s would never have succeeded without the legitimate expression of anger against injustice. The point is not to eradicate honor and pride from the male character, but to re-channel those energies from the nihilistic violence of Fight Club or the Arkansas schoolyard to some constructive moral purpose.
...the first step toward a sensible debate about manly pride is to rescue the positive tradition of manliness from three decades of stereotyping that conflates masculinity with violence, hegemony, and aggression. We have to recognize that men and women are moral equals, that decent and worthy men have always known this, and that, while men and women share the most important human virtues, vices, and aptitudes, they also have psychological traits that incline them toward some different activities.
According to the regnant orthodoxy, men and women should have exactly the same kinds of capacities and ambitions. They should be equally interested in becoming tycoons, winning battles, driving tractors, and nurturing children. But this is not reality. In general, men don't want to work in day-care centers or teach kindergarten, and women don't want to be truck drivers or join the military. Moreover, women are far more likely than men to leave successful jobs to devote time to families, and women under 30 are more eager for lasting marriages and numerous children than women of their parents' generation (doubtless yearning for what their parents denied them).
We should recognize at last that, as long as women are guaranteed an equal opportunity to pursue whatever occupation they want, it does not matter that men and women on the whole still choose different vocations. Remaining injustices should be addressed by procedural liberalism, which has always brought the most solid progress. We should stop trying to reengineer the human soul to prevent boys from being boyish, while encouraging all forms of self-expression in girls. All that 30 years of behavioral conditioning has done is drive maleness underground and distort it by severing it from traditional sources of masculine restraint and civility. The gurus of sensitivity have tried to convince men to become open, fluid, nonhegemonic, and genderless beings who are unafraid to cry. But little boys still want to play war and shoot up the living room with plastic howitzers, and we can't give them all Ritalin. Psychologists have begun to express concern about our educational institutions' readiness to pathologize what once would have been regarded as boyish high spirits -- rough-housing, "hating" girls, locker-room language -- and to treat ordinary immaturity with powerful drugs...
Again, the point is to channel these energies into the development of character. Boys and young men still want to be heroes, and the way to educate them to treat girls and women with respect is to appeal to their heroism, not to try to blot it out. Look at those kids performing daring flips on their skateboards, or sailing on their Rollerblades into the heaviest downtown traffic like warriors contemptuous of danger. They are almost always males. Look at that squeegee kid with his shaved head and horsehair plume, decked out like some road-warrior Achilles. Walk into one of those high-voltage computer emporiums, selling our century's most potent icon for the extension of human mastery over the cosmos. Who are the salesmen? Almost always cocky young men, celebrities-in-waiting in dark suits and moussed hair, hooked on the sheer power of it all...
And what else would one expect, since so many of the families into which they were born ended in divorce? By denying and repressing their natural inclination to manliness, we run the risk of abandoning them to such infantile posturing...
Having failed to find an authority they can respect, someone to guide them from boyish impetuosity to a mature and manly vigor of judgment, they confuse authority with oppression. Still, cast adrift in a world without any limitations, they want there to be a price to pay for their hedonism. Since no one will lead them back to the great ethical and religious traditions that set these limits on the highest intellectual and spiritual level, they pierce their bodies in a crude simulacrum of traditional restraint. And, in that, they reveal not only the wondrous capacity of spirited young people to see through the aridity of the governing orthodoxies but also the potential for an ennobling transformation. It is precisely in a traditional understanding of manly pride and honor that we will find the only sure basis for respect between men and women.
The best way of convincing young men to treat women with respect is to educate them in the traditional virtues, which make it a disgrace to treat anyone basely, dishonestly, or exploitatively. Moreover, the surest way of raising young men to treat young women as friends rather than as objects for sexual exploitation is to appeal to their natural longing to be honored and esteemed by the young women to whom they are attracted. When our erotic attraction to another is properly directed, it leads us to cultivate the virtues of moderation, honesty, gratitude, and compassion that make us worthy of love in the eyes of the beloved. We try to be virtuous because we want to be worthy of being loved."
"What I do want to do is desensitize people to this offense-taking, grievance and victimhood culture."
"The First Amendment is extremely important. It's the fundamental underpinning of American civilization."
"There's a sense in the media in America also that the range of acceptable thoughts and opinions... is becoming narrower and narrower."
"If you're not prepared to read the comedy into that statement and you think that is a literal expression, then I can't help you."
Nice. My Zero-Carb Update--and a Call for Your Stories | My Zero Carb Life: "My recent eating habits have included eating at around eight quarter-pound beef patties every day, and if I’m still hungry, I’ll have some eggs, bacon, roast beef, or whatever meat I have on hand. If I ever start craving fat again, I’ll go back to adding it, but my body just doesn’t want extra fat at the moment. I think adding fat is a very meal-by-meal and person-by-person decision. If I desire more fat, I have it! If leaner meats appeal to me, then lean it is. I don’t calculate micros or try to force anything. As long as I’m just eating from the animal kingdom (mostly meat with some eggs and a little dairy), I know I’ll be fine. Yes, I was zero-carb during my third pregnancy. I’ve written about my first two pregnancies before, but wanted to share that my third pregnancy was a smooth one. I had some food aversions and nausea in my first trimester, but I just ate the meats that appealed to me and avoided the ones that made me gag. (Chicken wings. *barf* What was wrong with me?) I mostly ate burgers covered in cheese, mayonnaise, bacon, and mustard. My favorite pregnancy meal was a bunless Monster Thickburger from Hardee’s, which is why you may have noticed an increase in their stock prices. (The Hardee’s drive-thru people recognized my minivan and knew my order by heart. At three locations.) So I kinda eat at McDonald’s every day. Life with three kids is super-busy, and since ThickBurgers are pricey, these days I mostly eat burger patties from McDonald’s. Every day I order eight quarter pound beef patties, just the meat. That gives me two pounds of beef for $8.00 (prices vary from store to store; I live in North Carolina), meaning that I can get my patties for $4/pound. I can barely get raw meat in the grocery store for less than that! I also love hitting the drive-thru daily because my kids take naps in the minivan while I’m fixing my breakfast/lunch/dinner. Multitasking at its finest."
96% of women are liars, honest - The Scotsman: "Eighty-three per cent owned up to telling "big, life-changing lies", with 13 per cent saying they did so frequently. Half said that if they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with their partner, they would lie about the baby’s real father. Forty-two per cent would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, no matter the wishes of their partner. And an alarming 31 per cent said they would not tell a future partner if they had a sexual disease: this rises to 65 per cent among single women."
Page 2378 - The Rogan Board: "Guess who beat their kids more between fathers and mothers... Mothers, by a LANDSLIDE. Guess who has higher rates of domestic violence between lesbians, gays, and heterosexuals... Lesbians. Study after study show women are for all intents and purposes just as violent as men, they just aren't as good at it. This is why their violence tends to be indirect too, like getting someone else to do it for them. But the real difference is who does major damage more often if they are violent, and that's where men outdo women."
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"... whenever humans have motive, opportunity, a high upside gain, and low odds of detection, shenanigans happen 100% of the time."
Scott Adams' Blog: "If you want a reason to be worried, ask yourself why the mainstream media is so keen on framing the election as “not rigged.” The message I’m getting from them, collectively, is that they think it will be. (Because it will be.) We just don’t know how much the rigging will matter. Why do I say it will be rigged? Because whenever humans have motive, opportunity, a high upside gain, and low odds of detection, shenanigans happen 100% of the time. Our vote-counting systems have plenty of weak spots. Rigging (to some degree) is a near guarantee. And keep in mind that Team Clinton has framed Trump as the next Hitler. That gives every citizen moral cover to do outrageous things to stop him. The stakes are sky-high. In this environment, it would truly be a miracle to have an unrigged election. But again, we don’t know how much rigging there will be. It might not be enough to matter. There will almost certainly be election rigging for the same reason there has been debate rigging. If you don’t believe me about debate rigging, ask a woman who did some of that debate rigging herself. (Donna Brazile.) Allegedly. Unless it was Russia’s fault."
"Outpolling the likely next president among active military while exceeding his national averages by more than 400 percent..."
Gary Johnson’s 27% Showing in Another Military Poll Is a Warning Shot to Smug Interventionists - Hit & Run : Reason.com: "...the fact that a third-party candidate with no particular foreign policy expertise is outpolling the likely next president among active military while exceeding his national averages by more than 400 percent should give Washington's default interventionists pause...
Instead, judging by this condescending Christian Science Monitor write-up (subhed: "A new poll shows Libertarian candidate Gary Johnson beating Hillary Clinton by 7 points among active military personnel, despite his proposals to cut military spending and a lack of foreign policy knowledge"), the only people that the political class deem ready for a re-think are the troops themselves. Don't these rubes understand that Johnson lacks the necessary sophistication?"
5 Crippling Lies That All Men Are Fed From Birth: "Men no longer have male role models to teach them the truth. Instead, they’re fed lies from the time they’re born. Some of them aren’t very harmful, but some are absolutely devastating and prevent men from living a fulfilled life. Some of these lies are very explicit; they’re taught to us in school or by our parents. Some, however, are more implicit – people skirt around them and avoid saying them, but their actions make what they’re trying to say very clear...
2. You’re born special
We live on a planet with over 7 billion people. You think you’re smart? There’s dozens of Asian kids that can solve a Rubik’s cube in under 15 seconds. You think you’re strong? The world record for a deadlift is 1018.5 pounds. You think you’re talented? Then why haven’t you become a millionaire athlete/musician/whatever yet? The fact of the matter is that nobody is special. Sure, we all have different genetics – Einstein was gifted intellectually, Mike Tyson was gifted physically, and Jimmy Page was gifted musically. But so is everyone else. Tons of people are gifted at something. Nobody is special. If you want something, you have to work for it...
4. The world cares about you
The world literally does not give a fuck about you. Sure, your friends and family members may care about you. But the world is often a very cold, and unforgiving place. It can be a great place…if you make it one. But if you sit back and expect it to care about you, it will chew you up and spit you out. If you become obsolete to your boss, you will get fired. If you make a bunch of stupid investments and lose all of your money, nobody will bail you out. If you’re an alcoholic and ruin your marriage and lose your house, nobody will come in rushing to save you. You need to realize that the world doesn’t owe you anything. The only things that you get are the things that you earn. Sure, some people might be given things. Maybe you were given things. But you aren’t owed shit. That person didn’t have to give you anything. The world didn’t have to give you anything. The sooner that you realize the world doesn’t owe you shit, the sooner you can start actually earning what it is that you want.
5. Everyone is equal
We’re taught from a young age to believe that all people, viewpoints, ideas, and cultures are equal. They aren’t. In fact, they’re pretty different. Are you telling me that the culture of North Africa is the same as the culture of China? If you said yes, have you ever opened a fucking history book? Are you telling me that the viewpoint that you should be a parasite, and bum off of welfare is “equal” to the viewpoint that you should be a contributing member of society? A 12 year old boy and a 45 year old man are different, a business man and a musician are different, men and women are different, and a Kenyan man and a Vietnamese man are different. Cultures are not equal, viewpoints are not equal, ideas are not equal, and people are not equal. Some cultures are better at some things than others. Every culture has their strengths and weaknesses. The West is generally very efficient and productive, at the cost of our enjoyment. The East is generally very socialistic, at the cost of their individuality. Not all viewpoints are equal. Some will lead to better outcomes than others. Men and women aren’t equal. Men tend to be very assertive and logical, but are typically more violent. Women tend to be more socially intelligent and intuitive, but are typically more manipulative. Everybody and everything is different – and this is fine."
Concentrated Sunshine • listener-blue: I really really don’t. If a girl...: "I really really don’t. If a girl is ‘bossy’ it means she is domineering. That is not a good leadership skill. If a girl is ‘bossy’ it means she doesn’t give others a chance to air their opinion. That is not a good leadership skill. If a girl is ‘bossy’ it means she is harsh on her peers and dictatorial in her manner. Those are not good leadership skills. I want every little girl who is told she is bossy to be told why this behaviour is a problem. I want every little girl who behaves in this manner to be told if she wants to be a leader then bossy behaviour is not the way to go about it and it is not the way to earn the respect of your peers. I want every little girl to be taught good leadership skills so that if they do choose to enter those careers that need those skills then they are capable and ready. I want every little girl to learn to take constructive criticism, and I want society to stop coddling girls and women as if they can’t take criticism. So no, I don’t want us telling little girls that they have leadership skills when in reality they’re bossy. That’s not helping anybody. It’s certainly not helping those girls to become good leaders. In fact if anything it’s doing the opposite - it’s teaching them that shitty leadership skills are OK. And all that’s gonna do is lead to generations of women who are terrible leaders, and all that’s gonna do is lead to generations of people who think that women can’t lead. Isn’t that the opposite of what people are trying to achieve here?"
"No one is entitled to be ignorant." - Harlan Ellison
"The one permanent emotion of the inferior man, as of all the simpler mammals, is fear—fear of the unknown, the complex, the inexplicable. What he wants beyond everything else is safety. His instincts incline him toward a society so organized that it will protect him at all hazards, and not only against perils to his hide but also against assaults upon his mind—against the need to grapple with unaccustomed problems, to weigh ideas, to think things out for himself, to scrutinize the platitudes upon which his everyday thinking is based." - H.L. Mencken