It trips me out, invariably, whenever I run into one of my former students who've graduated and moved on, one of the first things out of their mouths is "You remember me?" - filled with what can only be described as shock, awe and surprise. Which always prompts me to respond, albeit in my sad Japanese - "Of course I remember you."
Now, I'll grant that about 80-90% of the time I'm not going to remember their name - because Japanese is hard, and my facility with the language sucks - but of course I remember who they are. I remember their faces and their personalities, if they liked English, their sense of humor, who their friends were... I mean, I remember them.
Of course I do. I don't think I'm ever gonna forget these kids.
Happened again today. Ran into a former student and her mom out at the grocery store and as soon as I got out the 'hisashiburi' [long time no see] her mom blurts out "You remember her?" But my student was likewise and obviously surprised I remembered her... So I did the standard 'of course' and asked her how she was doing and how high school was before we all continued on our merry shopping way.
So I wonder, is it that they don't think they merit or expect being remembered? Which plays into the Japanese cultural trope of humility. Or is it they don't expect a gaijin teacher to remember them? Which plays into a different, somewhat less flattering, Japanese cultural stereotype. Or something else?
Either way, I'm glad to surprise them in a small way and pop whatever expectation bubble they had, even if just a little bit.
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