LIFT-RUN-BANG: And not a single mountain was ever climbed......: "I read an article a while back, which I cannot seem to find now so I will have to paraphrase, where the author (who is a therapist) was railing on the entire field of therapy because people should not find themselves in therapy for weeks, months, or years. I'm not talking about things like drug addiction or such, I'm talking about getting through normal, yet difficult life situations.
Her stance? Make a fucking choice. That's it. That's all.
And her problem with most of the people working in the field of therapy was that it wasn't their desire to help these people make a choice. Her pet peeve was the common question asked by therapists to their patients. "Well how does that make you feel?" Her retort was basically, "this is fucking stupid. I already know how it makes them feel because they told me. So my question back to them was "and what are you going to do about it?""
Her success rate was pretty high. Her style of counseling was to essentially force people to recognize the root of the problem, rather than worrying about the coping mechanisms, then make a choice to change the actual problem. To get them to actually say what they needed to change, then actually act on it. To understand what their control in life was, and to seize it, and make it work for them. To stop waiting for things to "magically change". To stop trying to put band-aids on the problem by addressing the coping mechanisms and to actually kill those off, by making a choice to change what was causing them...
Amazing that she was smart enough to go to school all those years and arrive at a saying most of us already knew, but have trouble applying. The problem is, most people really do already know the answer, but don't have the courage to break away from their metaphorical or real life in-person captors. People stay shackled to jobs, marriages, friendships, and all sorts of shit in life because of fear, habit, and the development of an ideology that their self preservation is dependent upon these things existing."
Her stance? Make a fucking choice. That's it. That's all.
And her problem with most of the people working in the field of therapy was that it wasn't their desire to help these people make a choice. Her pet peeve was the common question asked by therapists to their patients. "Well how does that make you feel?" Her retort was basically, "this is fucking stupid. I already know how it makes them feel because they told me. So my question back to them was "and what are you going to do about it?""
Her success rate was pretty high. Her style of counseling was to essentially force people to recognize the root of the problem, rather than worrying about the coping mechanisms, then make a choice to change the actual problem. To get them to actually say what they needed to change, then actually act on it. To understand what their control in life was, and to seize it, and make it work for them. To stop waiting for things to "magically change". To stop trying to put band-aids on the problem by addressing the coping mechanisms and to actually kill those off, by making a choice to change what was causing them...
Amazing that she was smart enough to go to school all those years and arrive at a saying most of us already knew, but have trouble applying. The problem is, most people really do already know the answer, but don't have the courage to break away from their metaphorical or real life in-person captors. People stay shackled to jobs, marriages, friendships, and all sorts of shit in life because of fear, habit, and the development of an ideology that their self preservation is dependent upon these things existing."
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