If you try to change, people will fight you.

I've done it to others [sorry Sandy], and had it done to me. Worth noticing, remembering, and changing.

The Crabs | StrongLifts.com:

...Your environment influences your thoughts. Many of your friends, colleagues & family are crabs. And they’ll repeatedly try to pull you back into the barrel.

Crabs don’t realize what they do. Sometimes it’s jealousy because you have the guts to do what they can’t. Often it’s because they don’t want to be alone in the barrel. Russ showed Tuesday typical Crab behavior: self-limiting belief.

...Ask crabs why they’re demotivating you or talking you down, and they’ll answer something like “I’m a realist” (which you can only be in the now, not in the future).

...Dealing with Crabs. 1 reason people fail to achieve their goals is because crabs repeatedly tells them they can’t do it. Never listen to crabs. You are responsible for your future. No-one else.

* Believe. “Your only limitation is the one that you set up in your own mind.” & “You can do it if you believe you can” - Napoleon Hill. Remember these.
* Agree. Leave the crabs in their barrels. No need to get into arguments with them. Agree and focus on your goals.
* Remove. Your environment influences your thoughts. Remove crabs from your life. The more you do this, the better.
* Connect. You can find people who got out of the barrel or are trying to get out of it just like you. Look for them, they’re out there.
* Succeed. Success is the best revenge. Revenge should never be your motivation, but succeeding is the only answer you should give.